Franklin Veaux (@franklinveaux), author of More Than Two (@MTTbook) explores the difference between rules and boundaries, and how we can use direct communication to get our needs met without stepping on the needs of others.
A very good article by The Critical Polyamorist (@CriticalPoly), where she examines her relationship with nonmonogamy, how she has struggled against a couple-centric, rule bound society and how she works daily against her conditioned monogamy.
In this article by Miri (@sondosia), she only briefly mentions relationship anarchy, but she does make the case for not having relationship rules. She discusses how broken rules can place blame on someone else, where if you don’t have rules you must take responsibility for yourself and your own feelings.
This is part 1 of a 6 part piece 'Of relationship anarchy, accessibility and sitting shiva'. The first three parts are relevant to RA so I'm posting links to those three. Blogger Rotten Zucchini’s writes about what is often missing from the discourse on relationship anarchy - the anarchy itself.