Carolyn Yates (@c_yates) interviews Josie Kearns, a 33 year-old queer, poly, white, trans woman about opening up her relationship, identifying as a relationship anarchist and living in an intentional community.
The Thinking Asexual has a lot of good blog posts, and much of what is written about how asexuals experience relationships is relevant to RA, particularly in regards to not elevating one type of relationship above another. This blog post offers an overview, lots of definitions and examples, and an explanation of how RA applies to asexuals, aromantics, mixed orientation sexual people, and celibates.
An article on Psychology Today (@PsychToday), written by Dr. Elisabeth Sheff (@drelisheff1), who is a global expert on polyamory and also the author of The Polyamorists Next Door. In this article, she explore the spectrum of non-monogamy, from cheating (unethical, non-consensual non-monogamy) through polygamy, swinging and RA.
The author writes about his experience redefining romantic relationships & friends vs. lovers. He spent time touring with his band, and notice the close bonds that were formed. His friendships were allowed to evolve in an unlimited number of ways, and they also had very few demands placed on the people in the relationship. This article explores how he decided to take these same characteristics and apply them to the romantic relationships in his life.
Louisa Leontiades (@AskLouloria) looks at how the mainstream media equates polyamory with sex, and how that has impacted people’s perception of the word polyamory. The author explains this is one of her reasons adopting the term relationship anarchy.
After Louisa Leontiades (@AskLouloria) wrote The Mass Exodus of Polyamorous People Toward Relationship Anarchy, some people felt as though the term relationship anarchy was being appropriated. This article reflects on that, and explains what relationship anarchy means to her.
Ian MacKenzie (@ianmack) interviews Mel Mariposa (@PolySingleish) to discuss relationship anarchy, developing community, and having authentic relationships. They get into some interesting stuff that you rarely read about in RA posts. There is also a transcript posted if you’re unable to listen.
The Thinking Asexual three types of non-monogamy: hierarchical polyamory, non-hierarchical polyamory and relationship anarchy. The differences between non-hierarchical poly and RA can be a confusing, this post goes over some of the reasons they are different. It also delves into how an RA might view non-romantic / nonsexual friendships.
Rob Martin (@version2beta) on @Medium explains consent using different scenarios, breaking it down into five categories: natural, explicit, implicit, delegated and appropriated. He writes that consent is a central tenet of relationship anarchy, and uses it to compare and contrast different relationship models to RA.
Written by Sadie Ryanne (@thedistantpanic) for The Scavenger (@thescavengermag). While she doesn’t use the term RA, this is an excellent article on non-normative relationships, and how infinite configurations are both possible and valid.
What if we don’t need a ‘best friend’ or a ‘true love’? What if we had discussions with everyone in our life about our boundaries? @saulofhearts on @Medium applies principles of polyamory (and RA) to see how they can elevate all our relationships.
Stephanie Pappas in Scientific American (@sciam) discusses how research on the poly community is growing. Scientist are finding that compared to monogamous folks, poly people are better at communicating and self reflection, and practice safer sex. Best quote from the article: "People in these relationships really communicate. They communicate to death.”
A great article by Josefin Hedlund (@josefinhedlund) about love as ‘a revolutionary force to challenge norms, promote feminist practice, and to reject capitalism’. If you like reading about intersectionality, feminism, and queering society's traditional view of love, read this article.
Although this piece by Briallen Hopper (@briallenhopper) on @TheCut doesn’t mention relationship anarchy at all, it is a really well written and thoughtful piece about the way society values couples over friendships. As someone who has always put a ton of energy into my friendships, this article really spoke to me.
Franklin Veaux (@franklinveaux), author of More Than Two (@MTTbook) explores the difference between rules and boundaries, and how we can use direct communication to get our needs met without stepping on the needs of others.
A very good article by The Critical Polyamorist (@CriticalPoly), where she examines her relationship with nonmonogamy, how she has struggled against a couple-centric, rule bound society and how she works daily against her conditioned monogamy.
Janani Balasubramanian writes for Black Girl Dangerous (@BGDblog) about power dynamics in poly relationships. All of these are good to keep in mind, #8 especially applies to RA: Recognize that your non-romantic and non-sexual relationships are also real and valid! Keep your understanding of love broad and political accordingly.