Via The Anarchist Library and written in 2004 before the term Relationship Anarchy was coined, Mae Bee discusses abolishing power structures and coercion in our relationships.
This blog post was written by flamingfoxtale (@imnocowboy) on the website Emotional Mutation in response to the article The Mass Exodus of Polyamorous People Toward Relationship Anarchy, written by Louise Leontiades (@AskLouloria). Flamingfoxtale writes that relationship anarchy is not just a different way of doing intimacy; it’s an integration of your relationship politics with your politics regarding the police, the government, and other oppressive systems.
Zine by Andie Lyons and Shannon Perez-Darby (@PerezDarby) written in 2007 about being ‘two radically queer kids’ in Denver in 2007, from the Queer Zines Archine Project. Written around the same time as Andie Nordgren was first using the term Relationship Anarchy, you can see the seeds if it here. ‘I try to treat the people I date more like my friends - to try to be respectful and thoughtful and have boundaries and reasonable expectations - and try to treat my friends more like my dates - give them special attention, honor my commitments to them, be consistent, and invest deeply in our futures together.’
Emma Goldman is considered one of the most important figures in the history of anarchism. She was a well known lecturer, and traveled all over America and Europe speaking about anarchism and women's rights. in 1906 started her own publication Mother Earth, in which she wrote about anarchism, politics, labor issues, atheism, sexuality, and feminism. She believed in free love and access to birth control, not the most popular opinions in the early 1900s. She also served several stints in jail, and was disparaged by the press who once called her the ‘high priestess of anarchy’, which actually sounds pretty badass.
Over here in Vancouver, we have started a monthly relationship anarchy discussion night. There was such awesome dialogue we decided to post notes, so here there are for your viewing pleasure.
In Part 3, blogger Rotten Zucchini writes about some of the contradictions that can pop up when we want our relationships to approaching relationships without expectations and wanting them to be equal.