Relationship anarchy is hard to write about in a few succinct sentences. These are a few things it means to me: I want relationships based around consent and communication, I believe I can love as many people as I choose, I value each relationship I have independent of the others, sex doesn't necessarily come into play regarding who my Important People are, I highly value autonomy and direct communication, and therefore I won't ask you for permission to do things, but I will talk to you about how you feel for as long as you need to!

I've created some videos about nonmonogamy, polyamory and relationship anarchy, if you want to check those out click here.

You can find a wide range of definitions online about RA, here are some excerpts from posts on my Links & Resources page:     

 

"Deciding to not base a relationship on a foundation of entitlement is about respecting others’ independence and self-determination. Your feelings for a person or your history together does not make you entitled to command and control a partner to comply with what is considered normal to do in a relationship...Rather than looking for compromises in every situation, let loved ones choose paths that keep their integrity intact, without letting this mean a crisis for the relationship. Staying away from entitlement and demands is the only way to be sure that you are in a relationship that is truly mutual. Love is not more “real” when people compromise for each other because it’s part of what’s expected."